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Dr. G.S. Srirangarajan with Sri Sathya Sai - Kodaikanal (1994) |
Divine Love cannot
be described in words or encapsulated in definitions. God is Love. Love is God.
Therefore just as God transcends mental comprehension, Divine Love too
transcends worldly understanding. All the same, attempts are made by various
persons to describe Divine Love in different ways. Some say, Love is a Divine
quality, others call it a visible manifestation of God, yet others refer to it
as a manifestation of Divinity.
Bhagavan Baba is
known to His devotees as Love walking on two legs. He is the very embodiment of
Divine Love. Let us see what He says about Love. Bhagavan says, “I separated Myself from Myself to Love
Myself”. What does this mean? Love is the Cosmic Glue that manifests in
this process of Self separation, to ensure ultimate union. If God is like the
Super Magnet, Divine Love is like the magnetic force that does not allow the
magnet to get separated.
Bhagavan says, “There is only one Religion, the Religion of
Love”. What is the meaning of Religion? The word Religion is sourced from
the Latin root word ‘Religare’. Religare means to go back to the Source. It also
means ‘To Unite’, ‘To Bind’. This reinforces the ‘Cosmic Glue’ concept of
Divine Love. Further Bhagavan says that Love is the striving to realize the
falsity of the diversity and the reality of the One. Love transposes the self
on to another and the two begin to think, speak, and act as one.
Love is but a
reflection of the God who is residing in our heart. Without that spring of love
that bubbles in our heart, we will not be prompted to love at all. There is no
living being without the spark of love even a mad man loves something or
somebody intensely. Surprisingly, one person we love most is our own self.
Bhagavan narrates the anecdote of the man and a calf to drive home this point.
Once a young man,
watching a calf fallen into a lake and drowning, jumped into the water to save
the calf. He tried desperately to bring the calf onto the bank. Watching this
act, a passerby laughed and asked the young man, “O foolish man, why are you risking your own life to save the life of
that calf?” The young man replied, “Sir,
I am not saving the calf for its sake. I am saving the calf to put an end to
the misery that I am experiencing in my heart while watching the calf in pain.
Therefore, I am saving it for my sake”. Strange as it may sound, deep
inside, every act has this enlightened self interest in it. We do everything
ultimately for self-satisfaction, self-joy. Even charity, selfless as it may
seem, is done for the sake of self-satisfaction. Our love for our own self
drives us to undertake any activity.
Hence our entire
life and all our activities are rooted in this aspect of Love. Bhagavan says, “Life itself is Love. They are not two, but
one. Love is the very nature of life, as burning is the nature of fire, or
wetness of water, or sweetness of sugar. Love is the fruit of life.” In
Mahatma Gandhi’s words, “Where there is
Love there is Life.” Victor Hugo puts it as, “Life is the flower for which love is the honey.” Whereas oil makes
a lamp burn, Love illumines life itself.
Characteristics of Divine Love
Having had some idea
of what Divine Love is all about, let us now get into the tough job of listing
some of the characteristics of Divine Love. To name a few, Divine Love is all
pervasive, changeless, absolutely pure and selfless, full of Bliss, free from
fear and pride. It makes no distinction between mine and thine. Love sustains
and strengthens. Love begets Love. Divine Love is unconditional and motiveless.
It is unaffected by joy or sorrow, praise or blame. Above all it unites the
whole world as one family.
All religions speak
of Divine Love in the same wavelength. For example, the Bible says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not
envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not
self-seeking, it is not easily angered; it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does
not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always
trusts, always hopes and always perseveres”. The Koran, in chapter 85, verse 14, refers to
Allah as ‘Al Buruj’, which means, “He is
truly forgiving, all embracing in His Love”. It also refers to the Almighty
as ‘Al Wadud’ which means that God Himself is infinite Love and Compassion.
Love in Operation - Pitfalls
Well, all this is
fine. Let us now come to the operational level. Let us talk of love as we
understand and experience it in our day to day to life. If we were to pause for
a while and ponder over the process of love, we will find that it follows the
following pattern. When we love somebody or something, the immediate reaction
is that we want to own it, possess it. Why does this happen? Because, we
consider the other person or the object which we love, as something different
from us. Our love for it drives us to possess it with the understanding that by
possessing it we will become one with it. Here we see the ‘Cosmic Glue’ aspect
of Love operating at the gross level to establish unity. The intention is
genuine but the understanding is faulty. By possessing or owning people or
objects, instead of attaining oneness with it, we only get attached to it. What
does this attachment lead to? It leads to sorrow alternating with joy. The end
result is that we do not find fulfillment in such love and a sense of
hollowness prevails.
Love to be true must
be the same towards all. But we know that our love depends on our likes and
dislikes. Such love can at best be described as attachment. It is either
attachment to the body or to the mind. Bhagavan explains the futility in
promoting such love. Love when directed towards the body ends in vain as the
body has to perish one day. Love when directed towards the mind leads to
bondage; bondage towards the worldly objects. Love when directed towards the
intellect, results in endless enquiry while love focused on the Antah Karna –
the inner instruments of perception, leads to ego. Swami Vivekananda also
reiterates, “Love is not attachment”,
but cautions that detachment does not mean indifference. Rabindranath Tagore
says, “Love does not claim possession,
but gives freedom.”
The following
writing of Kahlil Gibran describes beautifully the need to differentiate
between love and attachment.
Love one another,
but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a
moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s
cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of
your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance
together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings
of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
True Love must be
straight from heart to heart. It must be unconditional. No terms and
conditions.
Worldly Manifestations and Distortions
Pure Divine Love
manifests itself through the body-mind complex as 'Vatsalya', 'Moha', 'Sakhya', 'Anuraga', 'Bhakti' and so on,
depending upon the target of our love, the relationship and the feelings.
Whereas Divine Love
is changeless, worldly love keeps on changing. When a child is born, the only
love it understands is that of the mother. Later, as the child grows up and
starts its schooling, the focus shifts to the teacher. Then comes the friend
circle. As he grows up further, the attention shifts to studies and then a job.
Next, he enters into the family life and all his love now gets directed towards
his wife, and later to his children. Subsequently, his mind dwells on wealth
and money to sustain his family. Finally, if he is lucky enough, exhausted with
all worldly attachments, his mind turns Godward. Such perpetual alteration of
attachment & separation can never be called real love which is spiritual
and enduring.
Let us now focus our
attention on the various worldly manifestations of Divine Love and let us also
understand the distortions that arise in them. The love of an individual
towards an object or towards a member of his family is called 'Moha' or attachment. Talking of the
love of an individual towards an object, let us consider the example of the
love of a child for its toys or that of a housewife towards a beautiful sari.
What happens in this process of love? First there is a keen interest for the
object. Then overpowered by love for the same, there arises a desire to possess
the object. But this is where the flaw occurs. Once Bhagavan, while speaking to
a student on the aspect of attachment said, “Why
is it that when you like something in the market, you immediately want to buy
it? Let it be there. Feel happy looking at it there. Why should you possess
it?” Bhagavan says that this is the crux of all problems. We wish to seek
possession because, we feel that by doing so, the apparent difference between
the object and us will get eliminated and we will be able to experience unity.
This in fact is the inherent urge of Love to unite all perceptions of
differences. But merely seeking possession of an object cannot solve this
problem. The difference lies not between the object and the individual but in
the mind of the individual. Therefore, the solution lies not in seeking
possession of the same but in giving up possession of the delusion that
envelopes the mind. Over a period of time, the interest in this object wanes
away and our attention gets shifted to some other object. Thus at the end of
it, we are not able to enjoy a sense of fulfillment. This is the nature of
worldly love.
Well, if this is the
case, then what is the way out? Does it mean, one should never enter into such
relationships? No, that is not the solution. The world and all its
relationships are also the creation of God. There is nothing wrong in
developing love towards all our family members. But we must not stagnate at
this level. These relationships and this worldly love should be just the
beginning point. Using this as a launching pad, we must strive to transcend the
attachment towards the body and the mind and seek to realize Divine Love.
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Pundalik serving his parents; Lord Vitthala waits for him |
This
is what Pundalika illustrated through his example. He revered his mother and
father as God. Matru Devo Bhava, Pitru
Devo Bhava. Lord Vithala was immensely pleased with this love of Pundalika
that transcended the worldly bonds. The same was the case with Bharata. When it
came to choosing between the Lord and his mother, he gave up his bond towards
his mother and followed Lord Rama.
This is the true
purpose of all worldly love. Apart from being a source of temporary happiness,
it must serve as a means to realize Divine Love and the ultimate bliss that
comes from realization of the unity in all diversity.
The love of a mother
towards her children is termed as Vatsalya. The love of a mother is very sacred
and closest to Divine Love. In fact the Mother Cow yields milk, when its dead
calf is stuffed and taken near its udder. This is the extent of a Mother’s
love. However, here too, the same problem presents itself. 'Vatsalya' when bound by bodily feelings leads to attachment. We
have examples of several cases where 'Vatsalyam'
has been lifted to great heights, transcending the body and mind domain.
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Bhagat Singh (1907-1931) |
We all
know of the story of the freedom fighter Bhagat Singh’s mother. On the eve of
his execution, the mother had come to see her son. There were profuse tears in
her eyes. When people around tried to console her, she smiled and said that she
was not crying because of the sorrow of losing her son. She was shedding tears
out of sorrow that she did not have a second son who could also be offered at
the altar of the Nation. That was the greatness of her motherly love.
The love of a friend
towards a friend is called 'Sakhyam'.
This love too can be raised to noble heights or can become a cause for
attachment leading to sorrow and pain, when associated with bondage to the body
and the mind. The infamous story of Karna and Duryodhana is ample proof of this
truth.
The love between a
husband and wife is termed 'Anuragam'.
We have examples of husband-wife relationships that have transcended the lower
domains of 'Anuraga' and reached the
higher realms of Divine Love? History is replete with many such examples; one
famous example being that of Bhakta Tulsidas and his wife. In the early years
after his marriage, Tulsidas was literally glued to his wife. He could not
stay without her for even a day. He was just crazy for her. The wife was
sickened with this excessive attachment.
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Sant Tulsidas (1511-1623 AD) |
On one occasion when his wife had gone
to her mother’s house, Tulsidas was unable to bear the separation for even a
day. At night, he came to the house of his mother-in-law and tried to enter the
home. The door was locked and it was raining heavily. Using a cloth as a rope,
he climbed up to the room of his wife in the first floor and entered through a
window. Seeing him, the wife was disgusted. She shouted at him, “O fool, if you had shown even a fraction of
this same craze, this same love, for God; you would have attained Divine
realization by now!” These words struck him like a thunderbolt and
transformed him for good. Rest is history. This was the power of a noble wife
that enabled her husband to transcend the worldly domain of 'Anuragam'.
Just as love towards
an object is called Moha, love between a mother and child is called 'Vatsalya' so too the love between God
and devotee is called 'Bhakti'. This
is the most sacred form of love which enables one to transcend the limitations
of the body and the mind and experience true 'Prema'. We have innumerable examples of great devotees who have
set themselves as icons of 'Bhakti' and
have demonstrated this sacred Love for God and its consequences to the whole
world. Be it Meerabai, Kabir, Surdas, Chaitanya, Tyagaraja or Annamacharya,
each one was an inspiring example to humanity.
A devotee
channelizes all his love exclusively towards God. Once, Mother Teresa was
cleaning the wound of a leper. A foreigner on seeing this was shocked and he
approached her saying, “Mother, I
wouldn’t do this even for 1000 pounds”. Pat came the reply from Mother
Teresa, “I too would not do it for 1000
pounds. I am doing it for the Love of God”. That is Bhakti. However,
Bhagavan places the love of the Gopikas towards Lord Krishna at the highest
pedestal and calls it 'Parama Prema'
– Supreme Love or 'Para Bhakti'. He
compares the love of the Gopikas towards Lord Krishna with the urge of the drop
of water to merge in the ocean.
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Dr. Srirangarajan with Sri Sathya Sai - Sai Sruthi Mandir, Kodaikanal (1994) |
Need to Transform Worldly Love to Divine
Love
Having gained some
understanding about Divine Love and about the flaws associated with worldly
love, we now come to the crux of the whole matter. How do we transform our
worldly love into Divine Love? Mother Teresa says, “Today, there is more hunger in the world for love than for bread. The
most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved.” A
very important manifestation of love is service. There can be no true love that
does not manifest as service and similarly there can be no true service that
does not manifest as love. Love is born in the womb of service. Love expresses
itself as service and Love grows through service. Bhagavan says, “Wherever you see a disconsolate, diseased
person, there is your field of service. Every nerve must tingle with Love, with
eagerness to share that Love with the forlorn.”
If we were to filter
all our actions in life and the essence of all these actions was to be just
love; only then would we be freed from the bondage of coming again and again to
this earth. Bhagavan says if we expand our love we may be able to love more
people, but still there is a limit. Instead, He says, become Love itself and
the whole world will become ours!
The Ultimate Fulfillment
The ultimate
fulfillment comes as the merger of the river with the sea. God began this
process of Love when He separated Himself from Himself to love Himself. Now
each one of us must realize and experience true 'Prema' so that we can ultimately claim, “I united Myself with Myself to be Myself”.
- Dr. G.S. Srirangarajan
Student (1990-1992); Faculty, Department of Management Studies
Sri Sathya Sai Institute of Higher Learning
Prasanthi Nilayam Campus
Currently, Director, Brindavan Campus